Posts by Ian Tomlinson
Five Reasons Why You Should Come on the Getting the Love You Want Couples Weekend Workshop
Let’s be real – is your relationship everything you dreamed it would be? Or do you sometimes feel stuck in that frustrating loop of having the same arguments over and over, feeling disconnected, or just sensing something’s missing? If you’re thinking “yep, that’s us,” don’t worry – you’re in good company! Almost every couple goes…
Read MoreWorking With Neurodiverse Couples As An Imago Relationship Therapist
In this post, I would like to explore how we might work with a neurodiverse couple, that is, a couple where one of the partners is neurodivergent and the other is neurotypical, or a neurodivergent couple where both partners are neurodivergent. As an Imago Relationship Therapist, I do have Imago in mind, though much of…
Read MoreWhen Love Turns to Fear: A Couples Therapist’s Guide to Managing Domestic Violence Disclosure
As a psychotherapist, sitting with a couple in therapy can be a deeply moving experience, but when one partner discloses domestic violence, everything shifts. The room changes. Your role changes. And you need to respond appropriately . I decided to write this blog post because one of the most common questions I get from therapists…
Read MoreFilling Your Funnel From The Bottom Up: Practical Strategies for Autistic and ADHD Nervous Systems
TL;DR: The Sensory Funnel is a five-level framework (Sensory → Emotional → Awareness → Social → Executive Function) that suggests addressing needs from the bottom up instead of focusing only on productivity. For neurodivergent nervous systems, meeting sensory needs first (like sleep, nutrition, and sensory regulation) creates the foundation for emotional balance, present awareness, social connection,…
Read MoreCouples Therapy Training
With the rising demand for couples therapy, more and more therapists are seeking out couples therapy training. As a therapist, training as a couples counsellor can be a great way to hone your skills and help couples work through their issues. What Brings Couples To Couples Therapy What Brings Couples Into Therapy? Why do couples…
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