Noticing
Living By Intentions – What’s It All About For You?
What’s the point of you coming to psychotherapy? Why bother coming to couples counselling? Here’s my premise: it’s easy to start both activities and forget why you started in the first place. This is a reflection of how we live our lives. You fall into autopilot and do things because you’ve always done them, never…
Read MoreHow To Deal With People In Your Life That Are Self Absorbed
Let me tell you about Dave (not his real name, his real name is Mike – only joking, let’s carry on…) Dave has the fascinating capacity to turn every conversation back to himself. If I say I’ve got toothache, he’s had root canal surgery. If I like The Smiths, he will have seen them live in concert…
Read MoreAre You An Autopilot Zombie Sleepwalking To Your Doom?
Autopilot behaviour happens to us all. It’s all of those behaviours you do without even thinking. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is particularly interested in this behaviour because it often gets in the way of you having a rich, fulfilling life. Sometimes it’s like you’ve morphed into a zombie and you are sleepwalking yourself into Hell.…
Read MoreHow Funkadelic Saved My Sanity
Sometimes I get stuck. This information may come as a surprise to you. Even though I’m a therapist and have spent years studying the art of avoiding holes, I still fall into some deep pits when I’m on autopilot. When I got stuck last week, Funkadelic threw down a rope and pulled me out. Here’s…
Read MoreContact With The Present Moment
Ever find yourself thinking about the future? What about working through all of those stupid, idiotic things you did in the past? Like most people you probably spend an inordinate amount of time engaging with fantasies about what might happen or dissecting the hows, whys and wherefores of your history. This is normal, this is…
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